Category Archives: Life Reflections

LIVE LIFE BY YOUR OWN RULES

What would you do if you found yourself retired, then realized that you just weren’t ready? If you’re Ben Whittaker (Robert De Niro) from The Intern, you’d start all over again from the bottom. Enter Jules Ostin (Anne Hathaway) who owns her own online fashion empire. Her company has recently put out an ad for […]

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THE SOLUTION TO EVERY PROBLEM IS LOVE

The solution to every problem is love. Wow. That’s a pretty bold comment to make isn’t it? It also happens to be true. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most difficult things to do. You only have to read the newspaper or listen to the news to wonder if there’s any love left in the […]

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TO GREY OR NOT TO GREY – A Deeper Meaning

I recently joined an online writing group. Each day a topic is shared that we all write about and comment on. When the topic of whether or not to show up in the world with grey hair or to keep coloring, it seemed to trigger some deeper emotion, but what? When a woman changes her […]

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THE BEST ADVICE YOU’LL EVER RECEIVE

Do not lie to yourself. When someone says to you, “You are no good,” you might be tempted to believe them and wonder, “What do they know about me that I don’t?” or “How do they know this about me?” Why are we so willing to believe it’s entirely possible that we are not good […]

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LIFE’S WORK

Twenty years ago, I became a pastoral care minister – someone who helps others when they are in crisis. After the moment was celebrated in front of the church congregation, my seven year old son (at that time) said, “When I grow up, I want to help people like you do.” I had no idea […]

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CHANGE

Things change every day. I know that. Most of the time, I don’t notice the changes, they are so subtle or seemingly insignificant.  Life sales along and everything is good. Then one day something happens. I mean something really big; something life altering. And just when you’re getting a handle on that one thing, something […]

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WORDS HURT

Imagine taking a bunch of nails and hammering them into a board. Now turn around and pry each of those nails out of the board. What are you left with? A board with a bunch of holes in it. Sound innocuous enough doesn’t it? Now imagine that each of those nails equal a hurtful word […]

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GRIEF’S A FUNNY THING

Grief’s a funny thing. One minute you’re living your life as though nothing has changed, and then one day it hits you out of nowhere weeks, months, may be years later. And you wonder “Where did that come from?” That’s the way it happened with me when my mother-in-law died in 2009. Our family went […]

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YOU ARE IN GOOD COMPANY

A number of years ago, while taking piano lessons and worrying that I wasn’t good enough or getting any better, my teacher told me that it wasn’t helpful to compare myself to others who have been playing for years. Instead she reminded me to focus on the fact that, like Mozart, Beethoven, Strauss, Chopin, and […]

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A NEW PERSPECTIVE ON THE AGING POPULATION

I read an article in the paper recently about how the hospitals are so crowded nowadays that people are either forced to go home before they are ready, or they’re being dropped off at a shelter. The article went on to say that because of the increase in the aging population, they expect to see […]

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VALIDATION

“I’m so pissed off today. This happened and that happened. Why are they bothering me with this kind of stuff? I planned to do so much today and this had to happen,” she said, pulling her hair out. She was overwhelmed by the events of the day and venting to her husband. But then she […]

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WHAT ARE YOU FOR?

WHAT ARE YOU FOR? Such an interesting question. I came across it while listening to a Wild Woman Project video celebrating the Spring Solstice. With all the changes going on in the world today, particularly in the political realm, people are worried and want to know what they can do. The people at the Wild […]

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IN REMEMBRANCE

March 10, 2017 was a sad day in the literary world. Two great writer’s died: Richard Wagamese and Robert James Waller. Both authors have had an impact on my life, and I’d like to honour these two men by telling you a little about them. ROBERT JAMES WALLER: Bridges of Madison County. Who hasn’t heard […]

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MY MINI RETREAT

I don’t know if it’s because of lent – a time of death and resurrection, but it seems that a number of my friends, as well as myself, have been going through some kind of transition lately. For a while now there’s been a battle going on inside me that’s pitted intuition against logic. And […]

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WHAT’S YOUR LEGACY?

When we think of leaving a legacy behind, we think of something physical: money, land, a house, or perhaps some kind of creative work. It could also mean taking stock of your accomplishments and disappointments in the hope that you’ve created some kind of blueprint for your children to follow. Or perhaps you might be […]

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A FEW OF MY FAVOURITE THINGS – 25 To Be Exact

Julia Cameron is one of my absolute favorite authors of books on creativity and writing. I have learned so much about myself from reading her books. Every chapter asks you to think about the significant and the seemingly insignificant things in your life, so you can understand yourself better. One of the things she asks […]

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PARENTING IN THE 21st. CENTURY

Once upon a time, a son or daughter would grow up, find a job, get married, and shortly thereafter, have a baby or two, or six. They’d live in the same community, and often drop by for Sunday dinner of roast beef, Yorkshire pudding, potatoes, carrots and gravy. Perhaps followed by apple dumplings with lemon […]

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The Power of “No”

There’s a movie with Jim Carrey called the Yes Man where he is challenged to say yes to everything in his life.  It seems like a reasonable hypothesis to say yes to life. How often have you said no to something because you were afraid?  Probably too often to count. I remember being asked to […]

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Ask And You Shall Receive

As a parent, and a woman, it is not uncommon for me to put the needs of others before my own.  I think this is in part, due to the fact that I’ve been taught that it’s selfish to put my needs above someone else’s.  While putting the needs of others before my own is […]

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The Season Of Movies

Christmas is a time when families gather to celebrate the holidays.  For my family, it is also a time when we join together in front of the big screen TV to watch Christmas movies. If you knew our history, you wouldn’t be surprised to learn that the love of movies was passed on to our […]

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Small Things

Life is mostly made up of small events interspersed with the occasional drama.  If that’s true, why is it we tend to give more attention to the more dramatic events of life? The recent Olympics is a perfect example: watching the dramatic highs and lows of the athletes as they strive to honour their country […]

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