Things change every day. I know that. Most of the time, I don’t notice the changes, they are so subtle or seemingly insignificant. Life sales along and everything is good. Then one day something happens. I mean something really big; something life altering. And just when you’re getting a handle on that one thing, something else happens. Change seems to come in bunches. It’s like all those helium balloons that kept you afloat are popping one after the other and you have nothing familiar to hold you up any more.
WHERE DO I FIT?
I’ve been seeing a lot of changes in my life lately; well, not just in my life, but also in the lives of the people around me. Is it because we’re all reaching a certain age and moving into a new phase? I’m sure that’s part of it. I look around me and people are retiring, having serious health problems, have died, divorcing, downsizing, living alone for the first time, or looking for a second chance at love. I see the ground around my feet shifting. Where once I was on solid ground, cracks reach out like lightening to topple my solid foundation. I start to wonder where I fit into all this turmoil, and I find myself scrambling to find my balance again.
RESTLESSNESS IS GOOD:
All this change has been making me restless, so I decided I needed to get out of the house and move. I hopped onto my bike and headed out into the country. I rode hard, reveling at the wind in my face, and the sun on my back, while my mind traveled its own pathways. I began to think about where I wanted to land, and what kind of soil I wanted to land in. I needed to find my footing again. I needed answers, and I needed them now. Then half way through my ride, a single word popped into my mind: Simplicity. But what does that mean to me exactly?
THE QUESTIONS WITH NO ANSWERS:
I took things a step a further by asking myself some questions:
- What does it mean to have a simple life? Is it about doing less, or doing more of what I love?
- Will I need to let some things go? If so, what things will I need to let go of?
- What things do I want/need to hang on to?
- Will I be able to add anything new to this new vision of simplicity?
- Can I have more things on my plate and still call it simplicity?
- Is my vision doable?
- Will I be able to find balance in this new vision?
I wrote out these questions a while ago and I have yet to come up with any answers. But that’s not the point. The point is that when things change, we have to be willing to adjust our thinking by asking ourselves some tough questions. Holding on to the way things were will likely cause pain and discomfort. Forging a new vision, will likely do the same, so why fight what’s going to change anyway, and make it easier on yourself by accepting the inevitable?
Of course the questions you ask will be dependent on what is changing in your life, and how you want to envision your future. The important thing here is to ask the questions. Only then will you be able to grow into the answers – and you will, and so will I.