It’s always the same. Whenever I go forth with a new project, I worry about impostor syndrome. Will people believe that I have something to offer or not? Will they find out that I don’t have credentials? Do I have the right to share what I know, even though my only desire is to be helpful? For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to be taken seriously, but never felt that I was.
Even quite recently, when I was asked to work on a mentoring program for women, which became a project called A Woman’s Journey I struggled with the notion that while I believe in helping women realize their full potential, I questioned what I could bring to the table that would be helpful. My cohorts on this project are both university graduates and both have a lot of background experience that will make them perfect for this project. But what about me? Do I bring enough into the conversation to benefit this project? In the beginning I tried to sabotage my involvement by saying, “I don’t think I have time. I have a new book to write, and another to get through publication. Being a writer is my first passion.”
THEN I HAD AN EPIPHANY:
To take a university course takes four years. I spent that much time researching and writing my novel River of the Stick Wavers which is in the process of being published as I write this. Followed by another year editing. Doesn’t that count as a course of study that has the end result of having a celebration of completion? Someone will hand me my completed novel and I will become a published author. Isn’t this akin to a graduate being handed a diploma? So maybe I do have something of value to offer.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF AN OPPORTUNITY:
I got to thinking that I need to get my ego out of the way. There’s no point in feeling overshadowed by my partners in this venture. They are both wonderful people. They would never do anything to make me feel less than I am. I simply decided that the best course of action was to take advantage of this opportunity to learn from them? And that’s what I’m doing. It was so simple really. I just had to trust in myself and my own abilities. I do have something worthwhile to bring to this venture.
YOU DON’T NEED TO BE THE PERSON WITH ALL THE ANSWERS:
Together, my friends and I decided that we don’t want to be the person with all the answers. We want to find a way to show women how to search for their own answers. We want to start the dialogue that begins the discussion about A Woman’s Journey(the phases of a woman’s life) and together find ways to get in touch with the heart of who we are. For that is where their answers lie. No-one else can tell you how to live your life, or what’s best for you. Only you can do that. We have to learn to trust ourselves. But what we can do, is help you to get in touch with your inner world and learn to trust where it’s leading.
So, now I’m in the process of more study to find out all I can about A Woman’s Journey so that the three of us can get together and formulate a course of study that would be most beneficial for everyone concerned.
SURPRISE! YOU ARE A HIGH ACHIEVER:
I have read that people who have Impostor Syndrome are high achievers. That means that I want to do the best job I can that will not only be helpful to the people I work with, but also those I want to be of service to. That doesn’t sound so bad does it? So maybe feeling like an impostor is a good thing after all.