THE BEST ADVICE YOU’LL EVER RECEIVE
Do not lie to yourself. When someone says to you, “You are no good,” you might be tempted to believe them and wonder, “What do they know about me that I don’t?” or “How do they know this about me?” Why are we so willing to believe it’s entirely possible that we are not good enough? Why are we so willing to believe that we are nothing, yet when someone tells us we are “A beautiful creation of God,” we make up some kind of excuse, or feel embarrassed by it? I remember very vividly the day someone said to me, “You are more beautiful than anything that’s ever happened to you.” I cried and said, “How can you know that?” In other words, I didn’t believe him. How could I be this beautiful thing he saw? Everyone else saw what was on the surface. He saw what was beneath it: a beautiful child of God. I’d been so deeply hurt by someone, it must mean that I deserved it.
We are all wounded in some way. As we go through life there will be many things that happen to us, or spoken to us, that will cause inner pain and suffering. Sometimes this pain and suffering stays with us for the rest of our lives. It’s hard not to feel hurt or defensive when someone says an unkind thing to us. We lash out to protect ourselves, when inside we wonder how they know the truth. Yet the truth is, when people are unkind, it’s because of them, not you. Everyone comes with their own baggage. It’s easy to point the finger outward.It makes them feel better about themselves. But they too, are a beautiful child of God who has been hurt just like you. So, don’t perpetuate the hate by buying into their hurtful words about you and lashing out at them. You don’t need to defend yourself. This only adds fuel to the fire of hate.
If you continue to believe that you deserve the harsh words said about you, you will continue to attract people into your life who will continue the cycle of hate. You have to change your mind about who you really are.
There are people in the world who become addicted to their own suffering. They know of no other way to live. They can only identify with the part of themselves that is suffering. They can’t believe they are more than their suffering. It’s likely that the thought has never even occurred to them, much like myself until someone told me otherwise. So, I’m telling you right now, I want you to go to a mirror, look deeply into the eyes of the person in that mirror, and repeat these words, “Beneath all that I see on the surface, I am a beautiful child of God. I am more than my suffering.” And then I want you to believe it, because it’s true.